What is an Emotional affair and are you in one?
An unmotivated move of friendship with a colleague, old friend or a complete stranger can ruin your relationship with your long time partner. This is the very beginning of a unknown cheating that you might be unintentionally be part of.
What is an emotional affair?
Many a times a need for a companion grows ahead of a physical need. An urge to tell a secret without being judged or screemed at is the very beginning to such a relationship. A smile followed by a series of heart to heart conversation with someone totally unknown can start such affair. The need to be heard slowly building up inside you can be a dangerous ingredient to such a relationships. You label them as just friends but deep down you know they are much more than that. You enjoy talking to them more than your actual partner. You don’t fantasize about this friend sexually but the friendship has grown past those childish feelings.
Suddenly you and your friend feel soulmate. You both are super relatable. You can talk to him/her for hours. Everyday you look forward to share your secrets and see him/her. Life seems colourful again. There is heavy breathing followed by some eye contact. Unintentional hands rubbing or getting too close can make you both really uncomfortable.
Why do we need an emotional affair?
Sometimes our actual partners bring no newness in the relationships. All the sexual positions are tried. Every move that they make are old. You have seen him/her in every possible attire.
Sometimes they hold some kind of grudge against you because of a matter happened ages ago. You are tired of looking at each other. You are bored by his/her presence.
Your partner avoids having sex with you for various reasons. Your partner has become much more beautiful with time; Whereas you have not aged well.
Your partner is too busy with his/her career. They spend too much time working on the laptop; Comes home late. You both aren’t even eating a meal together. You two had a vacation ages ago.
How do I know If I am part of such affair with someone?
You find that person attractive. Earlier you don’t used to but now he/she has transformed into this angel.
You have started exchanging gifts.
You have started sharing your personal secrets. Secrets involving your spouse.
You have started sharing bedroom secrets.
You share your dreams,desires,fantasies, and imaginations.
You look for every opportunity to be with this person.
Ocassional hand rubbing has started into frequent things.
There is some touching involved but not the sexual ones. The ones involving care and affection.
You get angry when that person doesn’t give you attention you require.
You have started texting each other and in constant fear of your partner finding out that.
How to get away from it before it turns into Love?
Ask yourself a simple question how long are you willing to be in such a relation? Such relations are like final nail in the coffin for your relationship. He/She might never leave his/her partner for you and here you are secretly planning a marriage in your head. Such relationships are worst than physical relationship because they need to have someone has gone past the sexual need. The sexual needs can be fulfilled by any person but this need can be only statisfied by one person. This is the worst form of cheating.
Best thing to do is understand the deepness of such a relationship and start to distant yourself. For that to happen start getting close to your actual partner. Get him/her gifts. Try new sexual positions. Cook him/her dinner. Bring back the passion you two have been missing. They are the ones who stood by you. Probably father/mother of your child. You two have made a baby together. That is enough reason for you to forgive your partner and give a fresh start to your old love.
It is important to end things with your emotional partner. Start by talking about this and understanding that such a relationship can be sadness on a long run. Say your final good bye and go back to your husband/wife.
